Who: What remains of Team Femblemtroika What: With a few hard hitting losses to the gang, they all try to deal with it. This may mean a roadtrip through Kanto. When: February Where: Starting in Olivine, ending in the vague and widely defined area of Kanto Warnings: None besides their grief (as of yet)
Listening to Dedue explaining, step by step, what he means, why Dimitri may blame himself for Dedue's injuries... slowly, Grant stops scrubbing in favor of just watching Dedue, brows furrowed in concern and sympathy. It's... it's a lot. It's a lot that he doesn't at all regret asking about, but it's still a lot.
"I... I see." He suspects there's not much point to offering any kind of condolences; it's long past, and Dedue obviously doesn't regret it, in the end. "...And I see why you'd be worried about Dimitri blaming himself. Like you said, it's obviously not his fault, but... yeah, I wouldn't put it past him. Even if I can't imagine he'd want you keeping it from him, either."
Hell, Grant suspects he'd be inclined to hold himself responsible to some degree if someone got hurt so badly saving him, and his self-worth problems are nowhere near as bad as Dimitri's.
"I do not believe that he is entirely unaware," he says. "Dimitri has been injured himself, and he reads my face better than most. He can likely infer that I am sometimes in pain. But I do not wish to burden him."
Is it entirely healthy, the way that Dedue will continually prioritize Dimitri's wellbeing over his own? Probably not, but that's the flavor of this particular brand of codependency.
"And I apologize if this topic has become uncomfortable for you. I understand that this story is not a pleasant one."
And worse, perhaps, because of the fact that Grant knows him. It's one thing to hear of something like this and think it terrible, another to be aware that it happened to someone you're fond of.
Grant frowns a little bit at that, turning Dedue's words over in his head. Speaking of choosing words carefully... "I see your concerns, for sure. But... you know he wouldn't see you being open about your pain as a burden, right? If he can likely tell, anyway, he might actually feel better with you confiding in him."
That isn't the core of the problem here, of course - but he feels it's part of it, and... he suspects there's a way to go before he or anyone else can start effectively addressing The Rest. For now, the best he's got is to try and lead into the idea that... maybe Dedue's wellbeing can coexist with Dimitri's, actually.
He shakes his head. "No-- it's alright, I asked. I'm just glad you felt you could tell me."
“And he may still burden himself with guilt, regardless of my reassurance.”
What is he to do, when Dimitri burdens himself with undeserved guilt? Dedue could tell him that it isn’t his fault until he’s blue in the face, and it would likely do little to alleviate him. And Felix isn’t even here anymore to tell Dimitri that he’s being foolish— Dedue did not expect that this would be the thing that he misses about him.
Grant has taken his unpleasant story quite well, though, with neither pity nor judgment. Dedue appreciates it; he doesn’t regret what he did, and should the choice present itself to him again, he would do the same.
“Even so, thank you for listening to me. I do not often speak of such things.”
Grant sighs, staring down into the sink. God, he wishes there were a straightforward solution here - and he's sure Dedue feels much the same.
"Oh, no problem - I think it's good to get this stuff out there sometimes, y'know? Not being able to talk about shit that's really impacted you can get... rough."
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"I... I see." He suspects there's not much point to offering any kind of condolences; it's long past, and Dedue obviously doesn't regret it, in the end. "...And I see why you'd be worried about Dimitri blaming himself. Like you said, it's obviously not his fault, but... yeah, I wouldn't put it past him. Even if I can't imagine he'd want you keeping it from him, either."
Hell, Grant suspects he'd be inclined to hold himself responsible to some degree if someone got hurt so badly saving him, and his self-worth problems are nowhere near as bad as Dimitri's.
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Is it entirely healthy, the way that Dedue will continually prioritize Dimitri's wellbeing over his own? Probably not, but that's the flavor of this particular brand of codependency.
"And I apologize if this topic has become uncomfortable for you. I understand that this story is not a pleasant one."
And worse, perhaps, because of the fact that Grant knows him. It's one thing to hear of something like this and think it terrible, another to be aware that it happened to someone you're fond of.
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That isn't the core of the problem here, of course - but he feels it's part of it, and... he suspects there's a way to go before he or anyone else can start effectively addressing The Rest. For now, the best he's got is to try and lead into the idea that... maybe Dedue's wellbeing can coexist with Dimitri's, actually.
He shakes his head. "No-- it's alright, I asked. I'm just glad you felt you could tell me."
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What is he to do, when Dimitri burdens himself with undeserved guilt? Dedue could tell him that it isn’t his fault until he’s blue in the face, and it would likely do little to alleviate him. And Felix isn’t even here anymore to tell Dimitri that he’s being foolish— Dedue did not expect that this would be the thing that he misses about him.
Grant has taken his unpleasant story quite well, though, with neither pity nor judgment. Dedue appreciates it; he doesn’t regret what he did, and should the choice present itself to him again, he would do the same.
“Even so, thank you for listening to me. I do not often speak of such things.”
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Grant sighs, staring down into the sink. God, he wishes there were a straightforward solution here - and he's sure Dedue feels much the same.
"Oh, no problem - I think it's good to get this stuff out there sometimes, y'know? Not being able to talk about shit that's really impacted you can get... rough."