text: Purposefully anonymous, but woooo boy

[zukeini]

I'm wondering if other people are good at coming with answers on this because I'm kinda not. I'm really not, actually.

But what should you do if you catch "feelings" for someone. Who you know is in a relationship with someone else, but you also think you have "feelings" for that person too? And another person? You think you do?

But like, also it's you realizing that this means you're not straight.

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[zukeini]

[He had to think really hard about this one. Did he love them like that, or as friends? He had to remember the smile Grant gave him, the way Claude flirted, and how Dimitri lit up the entire room with his presence.

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No, I really like them. I mean...I like them as friends but whenever I think about what we've all done so far, I can't help but have my chest hurt as little.

I just also wanna do good by them.

[dreamsofahero]

Well, as I've said, the choice of what to do is up to you in the end. Just take care to know what you want, and what you're willing to do, sacrifice, or compromise to have it. Choosing to let someone know things about you that you normally keep from others, and learning about that person in turn, for example, requires acting in trust and giving that person something that could risk being used to harm you. It's the same for any relationship.

And remember, it isn't wrong if it doesn't work out, either. You can still treasure and help your friends as friends, after all. And there isn't anything wrong or lacking in that.

[zukeini]

I know. Relationships are complicated like that. And I really just hope they're happy, in the end of the day. Even if I can't help with that with how I feel.

[dreamsofahero]

Should that be the case, you can still help in ways other than the one you personally hope for, at least.

[zukeini]

Yeah I would assume the happy ending no matter what is the end goal, haha.

[dreamsofahero]

Why think of it as an ending? The friendship continues in one form or another, and maybe other new opportunities will come. For that matter, dating someone, marrying someone, isn't an end itself, but just one step in a lifetime of experiences. As long as you're alive, there's no need to see it as an end.