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victory_road2021-05-31 03:24 pm
zukeini) wrote in victory_road2021-05-31 03:24 pm
text: Purposefully anonymous, but woooo boy
I'm wondering if other people are good at coming with answers on this because I'm kinda not. I'm really not, actually.
But what should you do if you catch "feelings" for someone. Who you know is in a relationship with someone else, but you also think you have "feelings" for that person too? And another person? You think you do?
But like, also it's you realizing that this means you're not straight.
But what should you do if you catch "feelings" for someone. Who you know is in a relationship with someone else, but you also think you have "feelings" for that person too? And another person? You think you do?
But like, also it's you realizing that this means you're not straight.
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I feel deeply for your situation, stranger. I used to often think that, although my own feelings blossomed easily for those around me, I did not deserve to truly pursue them. I hope that, in your case, it is merely a matter of an awkward position, and not your own view of yourself poisoning your views.
Yet since arriving to Johto, I have found myself in a rather peculiar situation when it comes to romance, and it has made me want to be more optimistic in such matters. I have also learned a lot more about what is actually possible versus what is expected. It is all rather confusing, and strange. I do not blame you for being overwhelmed.
I cannot help you with how you feel about being straight, but perhaps my telling you of how my own lovers and I came to be may help you think of what you want to do in your own case?
1/3
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3/4 I lied
AND OF COURSE HE WAS BEING SO NICE ABOUT IT!! AUUUGH—!!!!]
4/6 you asked for this
5/6
6/6
Okay.
Be cool, mysteriously respond. He can’t know it’s you, Zuke. He had to inquire gently.]
That’s nice you grew more comfortable with it. I hope I do too, figuring this out.
You had multiple lovers here? Sounds like you really did change for the better.
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I still have my lovers here with me, as a matter of fact. As of the moment, I am dating four men. It is still strange for me to realize that fact, quite honestly, especially since it was only half a year ago that I did not think I would be able to make any romantic overtures at all.
[And then four boyfriends! All at once! The heck!]
I hope I make it worth it 1/2
Uhhhhhhhhhh.
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.]
2/2
Oh wow, you made the whole polyamory thing work, huh? I’m glad to hear it.
You seem like a real likable guy so thanks for your insight!!
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Yes, we did, although it was difficult. I had just entered my first relationship, you see, and I thought two others people in our traveling group were happily together as well.
It was quite a surprise when the two of them contacted me one night, and told me that they had feelings for me. They were adamant any relationship with me had to include both of them, but also did not want to cause any strife with the lover I had just taken.
I spoke to him, of course, and he revealed that it is something that can be done. A part of me always thought so many people were wonderful, attractive, and kind, but I did not know it was something I was allowed to do myself. He had no experience either, and neither did the two who approached me. With some discussion, we thought that another member might deserve to be a part of this conversation.
That is how all five of us came to be in one room, and discussed the things that might be a barrier to any relationship at all.
It was a lot of work, I cannot say it wasn't. Yet I am grateful I was approached that night.
I do not know your situation, of course, and what may be holding you back, or those you care for. I do not know how helpful this information might be.
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He didn't want to be slick. He didn't want to hide his face from him. But, if he knew now, surely...he'd feel different about Zuke. His traveling group, most of them, knew each other for a while. And Grant? Grant and Dimitri were that close like that. Surely. For all of the nice things they said to him, it wasn't the same. He knew now he was developing feelings for Dimitri, and Grant, and Claude. He saw himself with either of them and felt he could be happy.
But even if they made this polyamory work, it was so complicated for them.
Zuke would just complicate it further. There was no place for him. There couldn't be. He couldn't be the man Nadia deserved, so-]
No, it's helpful. It gave me a lot to think about. Sounds like you're happy, and you worked hard to have it that way.
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I am glad, then. Please let this give you some measure of hope. I would have been happy as I had been, with my first lover, but I am so glad that the others decided to take this plunge.
Perhaps things will be different for you. There is no guarantee either way, and I do have to admit that the pair who started all of this did so in something of a reckless way, I suppose.
Still, you could be happy, and you could make them so. That, too, is a possibility.
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[Ba bump ba bump babump. Oh, may he not regret this.]
Would you think you'd feel that way?
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[Especially since he feels there are very few people who deserve less than he does.]
May I ask what you mean when you ask me about what way I would feel?
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Like do you see yourself as open to more people like that? You said how people can love more than a few people, and accepting others. Just curious if that means you’d be even more open to other people.
I’m sorry, I’m just trying to understand all of this.
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For such an occasion, of course I would want to check in with all of fmy lvoers first, and it would certainly depend on the individual in question. If it were someone that one of my lovers hated, it would certainly be difficult to arrange.
[Although Felix had agreed to Jaskier being Claude's - intimate friend, when they were all starting this, so... Maybe it wouldn't be as big a deal as he's making it. Hm.]
Yet I think perhaps I would be open to it, if all fell well. It is hard to say without thinking of details.
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You’re a swell guy for explaining this to me. I know you said I shouldn’t apologize but I also shouldn’t push such a question on you like that.
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Besides, I know how confusing romance can be. How frightening. If you have any other questions about how such relationships can happen or work, I will gladly answer them, no matter what they may be.
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Somehow, he felt more confident. All over again.]
Maybe. But it sounds like there's people that also want you to be happy regardless.
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Still, I would not want to burden my feelings with a stranger, especially when this is about your own troubles. I wish you the best of luck, however you decide to approach your feelings and the people you love.