text: Purposefully anonymous, but woooo boy

[zukeini]

I'm wondering if other people are good at coming with answers on this because I'm kinda not. I'm really not, actually.

But what should you do if you catch "feelings" for someone. Who you know is in a relationship with someone else, but you also think you have "feelings" for that person too? And another person? You think you do?

But like, also it's you realizing that this means you're not straight.

Comments

[forsaintcecilia]

It's really hard to tell when someone is ready, isn't it? Like, I don't think I'd ever be able to tell unless someone just told me they like me directly.

You've had relationship troubles before?

[zukeini]

You can say that.

It's a long story. Long enough that I think it'd out me here too. But long story short, I didn't communicate well in the past.

[forsaintcecilia]

Well, don't listen to me then. Maybe you should be talking about it! Maybe that would make things work out. I really don't know.

re: Jane

[zukeini]

Someone actually came later here and talked about how it's better to have loved and lost than to never love at all.

Not saying the words I meant made things bad for everyone in the past.

I don't think I can make that mistake again.

[forsaintcecilia]

Huh...

Then... You really have to say something? Even if you hang around the people you like a lot, and you're really nice and give them a lot of attention, they won't, like... Feel it? Aren't people supposed to feel it?

[zukeini]

Feel it?

I dunno...what do you mean, "feel it"?

[forsaintcecilia]

...I guess I don't know. Whatever it is that's a romantic feeling? When you want to be around someone all the time, and maybe kiss them and stuff?

[Kiss them and stuff? Kazuki, what are you, five?]

[zukeini]

When you put it that way, yeah I know what you mean.

Part of why I questioned myself because after knowing these people I felt...like I wanted to connect. I wanted to be a part of their own world and share everything I had with them. Hold their hands and just kinda...I dunno, give myself to them?

[forsaintcecilia]

[There's a pause slightly longer than usual before his reply comes.]

I know that. I know that really, really well. I kinda feel like I'm talking to myself here, somehow.

[zukeini]

Kinda makes me feel that way back. If it means anything from a faceless stranger, I hope you find the one that makes you feel like that.

[forsaintcecilia]

Oh, that's not the problem. Like I said, lots of people, different directions. I guess I just don't have the courage to do anything about it.

[zukeini]

The courage I think is the next step. Seeing as I'm on here anon, haha.

I think coming to terms with how to feel about something first is key. I think I'm finally realizing that.

[forsaintcecilia]

Hey, I'm glad you did. I don't think I would have been able to talk to you about it otherwise.

What is "coming to terms" for you?

[zukeini]

Realizing I have feelings and not ignoring them. Not making excuses for those feelings.

Yeah, sounds right.

[forsaintcecilia]

Ah, okay. I think I get it. Because it's uncomfortable? Or... Because you're afraid of something?

[zukeini]

I mean, I think it’s both.

[forsaintcecilia]

Yeah, I know. That makes sense.

Well, if you talk to this person, I wish you luck. You seem like a really nice, thoughtful guy, so you've got a shot in that regard at least!