dated after prom | network (un: anonymous)

[dejabrewed]

[ he's got feelings and he doesn't know what they are!!! it's a crush but this is his first one.

so in true sandalphon fashion, he asks the network. but this time as an anon. he doesn't need this traced back to him! and to that effect, he's going to try and type like everyone else. (or as much as he can, at least.) ]

hey so how do you know you have a crush on someone?

[ ...nailed it. ]

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[text] un: iwaizumi

[toughlovin]

sometimes you don't want to punch them

A pissy Oikawa appears, text (w/ threadjack permission)

[grandtrashking]

[Could he have just bitched in person? Sure, but this is Tooru and getting SHAMED IN PUBLIC by his boyfriend. Rude. "Only sometimes", the nerve.

He's definitely misreading this... But he's sticking to being offended for no reason. Typical.]

ONLY SOMETIMES? Wow okay, I see. So you always wanna punch me? Jerk.

[toughlovin]

Only when you open your mouth. When you're quiet I don't feel that need.

[See? Isn't he a considerate boyfriend?]

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[amaure]

How do you know when you are hungry? Tired? Aught of that sort?

It is, quite honestly, alarming how unaware some of you mortals are with your own feelings, as if you are ill equipped to understand the most basic of emotional engagements with oneself or others.

Tell me, how does it feel to be around that person? Are there any feelings of excitement or fondness at the mere thought of them? Perhaps their annoying traits seem less so, and any vexation turns into adoration? Endearment?

Truly, it is not hard to understand ones feelings for another if you simply take a moment to examine the differences betwixt your feelings for them and others.

[dejabrewed]

[ sandalphon had to refrain from revealing himself, he knew that, but... ]

you sure like to assume things of others, huh? how do you know you're not talking to a kid or a pokemon, huh grandpa?

[ thankfully he had a milcery who wasn't so happy with how this guy seemed so full of himself. sandy just let her type that last sentence. ]

[amaure]

Are you implying children and Pokémon are not mortals? I do not see how either possibility makes them exempt of aught I said.

Unless you were unaware, but Pokémon are not immortal. Only some few are, and if a Pokémon cannot sort its own feelings in this regard, then it is just as worthy of my criticisms. If you are a child, better you learn to understand your feelings now, than to waste your life floundering over aught so simple.

Text; UN: BestSetter /waves this off as before oikawa calls him out by name

[grandtrashking]

I have a feeling I know who this is~~ if the little birdie that texted me was right.

But as for how you know? You just... do. If you find yourself starting not to be able to talk with normally without your chest feeling warm and fuzzy, that's a sign. Same goes for finding yourself thinking about them more often, imagining scenarios with the two of you, or any kind of other warm fuzzy feelings and wanting to kiss them.

[He knows it's you Sandalphon, but he's going to be nice. For now.]

[dejabrewed]

uh. that first part wasn't so helpful but i think you saved it by the end so thank you.

[ not even going to acknowledge the fact that oikawa knows, huh sandalphon? ]

[grandtrashking]

(b ᵔ▽ᵔ)b you're welcome. Some of the other feelings that you just Know it's one is acting dumb around them. Not just the not knowing what to say or talk normal, but looking at them and all of your smarts go out the window and you wanna run off when or if you do something you normally wouldn't.

[Like he did, at Prom, when he kissed Iwaizumi and ran off before the other had the chance to say anything! Idiot.]

Good luck with your crush!!!

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[schachmeister]

I think this is a very personal thing for each person, but in my case, each time, I wanted to be around them all the time. And I wanted to see them happy, but there was also a bit of a selfish desire to be the one to make them happy.

[dejabrewed]

i've been telling myself that i don't want to be selfish, to let the person have friends, but... i suppose romance is an inherently selfish emotion, isn't it?

[schachmeister]

I'm not sure if love (romantic or otherwise) is inherently anything. It can make you selfish or selfless. It can manifest in good ways and bad. Some people become brave because of love and others cowardly. I think to try and boil down any human experience or emotion to just one thing ignores how very different people and circumstances can be.

But, I also think that being a little selfish when being in love isn't necessarily bad. It's all in your actions.

I have someone I love very much. Because of that, I want to always see her happy. And yes, it does make me feel best when I am the one making her happy. So, in that aspect, there is some selfishness to my feelings. But if I use that selfish desire of mine to try my best to make her happy all the time, I don't think that is creating a bad situation for anyone.

anonymous text

[dreamsofahero]

Are you asking how to tell if you're simply infatuated, whether you having feelings of romantic love for someone, or whether or not you feel you ought to?

An infatuation is just that. It may be powerful and heady at the time, and typically features a strong affection or desire for a particular person based on traits that have happened to strike you as attractive or appealing. While different for everyone, it's not unusual for some to have such feelings on multiple occasions, or for different people. Acting on these feelings alone can be reckless, as while sometimes they stem from something deeper, sometimes they're simply passing fancy.

If you mean possibly loving someone in the manner of a romantic lover, not as a friend or family, that is a slightly different matter. Such feelings can be subtler, and have much in common with caring deeply for a friend. The difference is in desiring a kind of physical intimacy and a close relationship that you would continue indefinitely. Someone to live and raise a family with, for example. There's a willingness to do what you can for the other person's sake, rather than simply feeling an attraction, though of course that also applies to friendship or family as well.

As to whether to act on it, that is a decision for you to make. However, it is not one to be taken lightly, especially as you may cause yourself or the other person grief if you fail to consider what you're getting into. There is much to be found in loving someone romantically, but there is nothing wrong with remaining dear friends, either.

[dejabrewed]

... geez, who hurt you? i mean thanks for the advice but go see a therapist.

[ sandalphon didn't know what a therapist was but even he had to agree with his milcery that sion needed a little bit more help than what the angel could give him. ]

(oh look! an unassuming) text (from an unassuming person by the username) @dragon.type (!!!)

[fatefulprince]

Hi.
I'm trying to figure out the same thing.
I'm almost certain that I have feelings for someone right now as well.
I've never felt like this about anyone before. I think that's the distinction that helped me figure it out.
I feel so warm when he's near me, and start my day by thinking of him.
When I think of him I feel all light inside. Like a fluffy pillow.
I would do anything to see him smile.
It kind of surprised me, but... after talking to another, it helped me understand what these feelings are. I hope that you have the same experience after reaching out to the network like this. It was very brave of you. I wish you luck!

[dejabrewed]

[ sandalphon threw the gear to a corner of his room when the username showed up. HOLY SHIT?!?!?!

it takes an hour or two before he replies. ]

thank you... i think i figured out how i feel about the person now.

[ at least the feeling was mutual...? ]

[anon text]

[talkyourwayout]

You do stupid things thinking they aren't so stupid, mostly. It's like you've forgotten how to be careful.

[dejabrewed]

... i honestly thought i was catching a cold because i felt that way. thanks for explaining.

anonymous text

[shiningkindness]

Well it really can depend on the person. But sometimes your heart beats a little faster when you're around them, or it skips when you talk, or even just think about them. And you think about things that you can do to make them smile, because seeing them happy makes you happy too. And you just want to spend more time with them.

Things like that.

[dejabrewed]

oh no this actually is a crush. ohhh no.

uh. hm. this is hard.

[text] un: shinobu

[manabiki]

Try listening to your heart, the body can respond to attraction in noticable ways! Your heart can speed up, pupils may dilatate, you might even get shaky and sweaty around them!

[dejabrewed]

honestly this place could've done me better in preparing for that, but that has been happening.

[ at least he can say he did experience such things with being here. ]

(OP) anonymous

[dejabrewed]

so i found out three things while talking to the people on this post, anonymous or not:

1) crushes and love are two different things and it makes sense.

2) apparently love can be violent?

3) some of y'all need therapy.

Text | crypt_thing

[bloodyroses]

Are your waking moments occupied with weird fantasies of this person

[dejabrewed]

kinda. its like.... i want to be around them more and possibly kiss them-- and that's the weird thing, i don't know how to kiss. but maybe the video sites can help with that????